Teh One Who Knocks
11-02-2020, 01:49 PM
By Sophie Roberts, Lifestyle and Travel Editor - The Daily Star
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After years of fad dating, a plus sized woman has learned to embrace her 21st body.
Megan Fisher tried countless fad diets in a bid to lose weight – and even tried starving herself in the past.
She was consumed by low self-esteem and found it difficult to chat to boys in her teenage years.
Despite her fears, the 29-year-old settled down with a boyfriend in Pennsylvania, USA.
But still wasn’t happy as she worried about her size 26 frame.
Megan booked in for gastric bypass surgery and was set to get the op done – until she stumbled across Tess Holliday’s Instagram page.
Tess Holliday is a model who has been vocal about the body positivity movement.
She teaches fans to be confident in their own skin, which is why Megan decided to cancel her gastric bypass op.
The young woman vowed to give up dieting and moved to New York City.
She left behind the bank cashier job she disliked – and made the tough decision to leave her boyfriend.
Despite it being the scariest thing she has ever done, the move changed Megan's life as she learnt how to be independent and not to settle for any man.
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She said: "My life before I moved to NYC could be described as dull. I was unmotivated to make any changes in my life, mostly due to fear, and therefore very unhappy.
"I was in a miserable job as a bank cashier making low wages. I was living with a boyfriend in a relationship that was not right for me. I was unhappy with my body because I did not know what happiness even was.
"I would never have worn a bikini until I moved to New York and found my new mindset of self-love.
“In high school, I was so self-conscious of my body and truly believed I would never be able to have a boyfriend until I lost weight.
"I was too afraid to talk to guys in high school because of how I felt about my body at that time.”
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Megan continued: ”I would never have worn a bikini until I moved to New York and found my new mindset of self-love.
“In high school, I was so self-conscious of my body and truly believed I would never be able to have a boyfriend until I lost weight.
"I was too afraid to talk to guys in high school because of how I felt about my body at that time.
"Now, I think some men believe they can message fat girls and that we are obligated to talk to them just because they're giving us attention, but they are so wrong.
"Fat women do not have to settle for any man, we have plenty of amazing options.”
https://i.imgur.com/AM5OHHB.jpg
After learning to love her curves, Megan set-up an Instagram page.
She wants to be a role model for others – just like plus size star Tess Holliday has been for her.
The influencer shares body positive content with her 11,000 followers, who send her messages of support and tell her they’ve been inspired to slip into a bikini after seeing her posts.
Megan explained: "Knowing how much Tess has helped me with my journey made me realise that if I post pictures of myself normalising things society says fat girls can't do like wearing a bikini, crop tops, travelling, dating attractive men, hiking, being fashionable, being happy and eating food in public, that I could help others as well. My goal is to be the role model I needed when I was younger.
"Currently, I'm living my best life and posting it online for all to see. I try to travel at least five times a year and I post about my experiences as a plus size girl, whether it be about my airplane experiences, traveling solo, or the best food to eat abroad.
"I also post my outfits I wear and tag each piece so my followers can see fashionable pieces that are available in their sizes. The plus size community on Instagram has done an amazing job at helping each other find more and more trendy stores so that we all don't have to wear the same plus size clothing and styles."
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While many are supportive of Megan’s journey, not all of her comments are positive.
Cruel trolls send hateful messages about the Instagrammer’s weight, which she can find difficult to deal with.
She said: "I think one of the hardest things has been trolls on the internet who will find certain pictures of me and comment hateful things calling me a whale, a cow, telling me I'm going to die, or that I'm promoting obesity.
"At this point, it's so played out and my health is between my doctor and I.
“I block all trolls, but I had a post go viral from the movement @i_weigh where I was not in charge of moderating the comments and it was tough to see how far we as a society have to go with our mindset of fat people just enjoying their lives.”
https://i.imgur.com/JhlHVpu.jpg
Even though Megan receives negativity from some, she refuses to let it hold her back.
She said: “If I can inspire any woman to try on a bikini, or wear a crop top, or try anything that scares them a bit, then I believe my work is worth it.
"I think some of the best advice I could give others is first of all, if someone isn't paying your bills, then they get no say over what you do with your life.
"If it makes you happy, then go for it.
“You truly cannot make everyone happy, even if you're wearing a large paper bag hiding all of your curves, so why not wear something that makes you feel amazing?"
https://i.imgur.com/aDwzby3.jpg
After years of fad dating, a plus sized woman has learned to embrace her 21st body.
Megan Fisher tried countless fad diets in a bid to lose weight – and even tried starving herself in the past.
She was consumed by low self-esteem and found it difficult to chat to boys in her teenage years.
Despite her fears, the 29-year-old settled down with a boyfriend in Pennsylvania, USA.
But still wasn’t happy as she worried about her size 26 frame.
Megan booked in for gastric bypass surgery and was set to get the op done – until she stumbled across Tess Holliday’s Instagram page.
Tess Holliday is a model who has been vocal about the body positivity movement.
She teaches fans to be confident in their own skin, which is why Megan decided to cancel her gastric bypass op.
The young woman vowed to give up dieting and moved to New York City.
She left behind the bank cashier job she disliked – and made the tough decision to leave her boyfriend.
Despite it being the scariest thing she has ever done, the move changed Megan's life as she learnt how to be independent and not to settle for any man.
https://i.imgur.com/1PivMte.jpg
https://i.imgur.com/AVwgPZa.jpg
She said: "My life before I moved to NYC could be described as dull. I was unmotivated to make any changes in my life, mostly due to fear, and therefore very unhappy.
"I was in a miserable job as a bank cashier making low wages. I was living with a boyfriend in a relationship that was not right for me. I was unhappy with my body because I did not know what happiness even was.
"I would never have worn a bikini until I moved to New York and found my new mindset of self-love.
“In high school, I was so self-conscious of my body and truly believed I would never be able to have a boyfriend until I lost weight.
"I was too afraid to talk to guys in high school because of how I felt about my body at that time.”
https://i.imgur.com/rkaszTm.jpg
https://i.imgur.com/n3xr0Wb.jpg
Megan continued: ”I would never have worn a bikini until I moved to New York and found my new mindset of self-love.
“In high school, I was so self-conscious of my body and truly believed I would never be able to have a boyfriend until I lost weight.
"I was too afraid to talk to guys in high school because of how I felt about my body at that time.
"Now, I think some men believe they can message fat girls and that we are obligated to talk to them just because they're giving us attention, but they are so wrong.
"Fat women do not have to settle for any man, we have plenty of amazing options.”
https://i.imgur.com/AM5OHHB.jpg
After learning to love her curves, Megan set-up an Instagram page.
She wants to be a role model for others – just like plus size star Tess Holliday has been for her.
The influencer shares body positive content with her 11,000 followers, who send her messages of support and tell her they’ve been inspired to slip into a bikini after seeing her posts.
Megan explained: "Knowing how much Tess has helped me with my journey made me realise that if I post pictures of myself normalising things society says fat girls can't do like wearing a bikini, crop tops, travelling, dating attractive men, hiking, being fashionable, being happy and eating food in public, that I could help others as well. My goal is to be the role model I needed when I was younger.
"Currently, I'm living my best life and posting it online for all to see. I try to travel at least five times a year and I post about my experiences as a plus size girl, whether it be about my airplane experiences, traveling solo, or the best food to eat abroad.
"I also post my outfits I wear and tag each piece so my followers can see fashionable pieces that are available in their sizes. The plus size community on Instagram has done an amazing job at helping each other find more and more trendy stores so that we all don't have to wear the same plus size clothing and styles."
https://i.imgur.com/KHILCg8.jpg
https://i.imgur.com/Nt0epKM.jpg
While many are supportive of Megan’s journey, not all of her comments are positive.
Cruel trolls send hateful messages about the Instagrammer’s weight, which she can find difficult to deal with.
She said: "I think one of the hardest things has been trolls on the internet who will find certain pictures of me and comment hateful things calling me a whale, a cow, telling me I'm going to die, or that I'm promoting obesity.
"At this point, it's so played out and my health is between my doctor and I.
“I block all trolls, but I had a post go viral from the movement @i_weigh where I was not in charge of moderating the comments and it was tough to see how far we as a society have to go with our mindset of fat people just enjoying their lives.”
https://i.imgur.com/JhlHVpu.jpg
Even though Megan receives negativity from some, she refuses to let it hold her back.
She said: “If I can inspire any woman to try on a bikini, or wear a crop top, or try anything that scares them a bit, then I believe my work is worth it.
"I think some of the best advice I could give others is first of all, if someone isn't paying your bills, then they get no say over what you do with your life.
"If it makes you happy, then go for it.
“You truly cannot make everyone happy, even if you're wearing a large paper bag hiding all of your curves, so why not wear something that makes you feel amazing?"