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Teh One Who Knocks
06-05-2014, 11:41 AM
By Richard Spillett - The Daily Mail


After their daughter lost her fight with cancer, Dean and Caroline Orchard knew they had to face the devastating task of sorting through her belongings.

What they didn’t know was that they would discover something that would make them feel closer to 13-year-old Athena than ever.

On the back of her bedroom mirror, the little girl had secretly written a 3,000 word message for her parents and siblings.

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In it, she gives advice for them to live by and reveals her unshakeably positive attitude, writing: ‘Every day is special, so make the most of it. You could get a life-ending illness tomorrow so make the most of every day. Life is only bad if you make it bad.’

Mr Orchard, 33, said: ‘I started reading it but before long I had to stop because it was too much. It was heartbreaking.’

Athena was diagnosed with osteosarcoma, a form of bone cancer, at the age of 12, after collapsing just before Christmas in the kitchen of the family’s home in New Parks, Leicester.

She had an emergency seven-and-a-half hour operation to remove a tumour on her spine, followed by months of chemotherapy targeting the cancer in her spine, shoulder and head.

She lost her hair and much of her strength – but not her positive outlook. In marker pen on the back of the mirror, she wrote: ‘Happiness depends upon ourselves. Maybe it’s not about the happy ending, maybe it’s about the story. The purpose of life is a life of purpose. The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.’

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Despite treatment, Athena’s condition deteriorated quickly, and she died at home last week, surrounded by her family.

Days later, her parents discovered her message while moving the mirror that stood against her bedroom wall.

Mr Orchard, who gave up work as a landscape gardener when his daughter became ill, said: ‘I couldn’t believe it, I saw all this writing, it must have been about 3,000 words. It’s so touching. When I first saw it, it just blew me away.

‘She never mentioned it, but it’s the kind of thing she’d do. She was a very spiritual person, she’d go on about stuff that I could never understand – she was so clever.’

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Athena, who leaves behind six sisters and three brothers – Naysa, one, Letissia-Dior, two, Indika-Mayah, four, Tiana, five, Harley, eight, Porscha and Ethan, 11, Clayton, 14, and Ria, 17 – also wrote movingly about love, saying: ‘I’m waiting to fall in love with someone I can open my heart to.

‘Love is rare, life is strange, nothing lasts and people change.’

Full-time mother Mrs Orchard, 37, described her ‘beautiful and athletic’ daughter as ‘the bravest person I know’. She said yesterday: ‘We knew that Athena loved to write, that was part of who she was, it made her happy.

‘Dean started to try and read [the message] but then he just broke out in tears. She was an incredible girl, so bright and so strong, she continually amazed me.

‘She was always positive, even when she was in hospital she would be looking after me, making sure I ate and telling me not to cry.

‘We knew the cancer was very aggressive … she fought it as long as she could but eventually she became too weak to get out of bed.

‘We’re keeping the mirror forever. Just reading her words felt like she was still here with us. She had such an incredible spirit.’
Athena pictured (centre right, with yellow hair ties) in a childhood photo with her brothers and sisters

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FBD
06-05-2014, 11:58 AM
:(

DemonGeminiX
06-05-2014, 12:19 PM
Damn dust in this room... got some in my eye...

:sad:

Hal-9000
06-05-2014, 10:05 PM
I'll be unpopular here...people with life threatening situations know this advice already and live it..because they have no choice.

most of us don't follow this advice and we should, no matter what our situations are....that's the really sad thing about life, we waste it

Noilly Pratt
06-05-2014, 10:23 PM
I hear you, Hal.

They say youth is wasted on the young. Go one step further and you could say life is wasted on the living. Sometimes we don't fully appreciate what we have (our lives or other's lives) until we're near the end of it.

Hal-9000
06-05-2014, 10:28 PM
I think we could all do better in everything from how we treat our bodies, to how we treat other people..

knowing better and doing better are sometimes sooo far apart

and yes I am completely guilty of the above

PorkChopSandwiches
06-05-2014, 10:31 PM
:aww:

Hal-9000
06-05-2014, 10:34 PM
they have 10 kids?? :shock:

and only one gets a shitty, rare form of cancer


damn gene pool lottery