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Teh One Who Knocks
07-18-2017, 11:09 AM
Richard Hartley-Parkinson for Metro.co.uk


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A Polish-born teenager who was found hanged in toilets at her school complained that she had been bullied and had been called a ‘stupid Pole’ and told to ‘go back to your own country’ by other pupils, an inquest has heard.

Dagmara Przybysz, 16, an aspiring photographer who was looking forward to her year 11 prom and shopping for a dress with her mother, died at Pool Academy on May 17, 2016.

On Monday, an inquest into her death heard she had been having trouble with some girls at her school and had previously told her parents and her boyfriend that she had overheard classmates making racist comments.

In a statement, Dagmara’s mother, Ewelina, said her daughter, who was a ‘very beautiful lady’, got on better with boys, and most of her friends, including her boyfriend, went to another school.

She said: ‘Dagmara often talked to me about her problems and she was hurt if someone said something unpleasant to her.’

Mrs Przybysz said she understood her daughter had been having a problem with one girl who had ‘called Dagmara names’.

‘I don’t know exactly what was said,’ she said. ‘This incident occurred only a few days before Dagmara passed away … I don’t know whether these incidents were racist in nature; however, I can say that on several occasions she overheard comments such as ‘stupid Pole’.’

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Answering questions from Dale Collins, who represents Pool Academy, Mr and Mrs Przybysz – who are not represented at the hearing, said pupils had made racist comments to Dagmara ‘a few times’ in the last few months.

She added: ‘We think the biggest problem for Dagmara was not racism, but bullying.’

Lewis Simpson, Dagmara’s boyfriend, said they met at primary school and had dated on and off since they were 14.

Lewis said Dagmara told him that other pupils made racist comments to her such as ‘go back to your own country’ and he said: ‘I think it got to her a little bit.’

Cornwall Coroner’s Court, sitting in Truro, heard Dagmara was taken to hospital by her uncle, Tomasz Dobek, the day before she died after injuring herself by punching a wall during a PE lesson when she became angry because she said some girls were laughing at her.

Mr Dobek said during the drive to the hospital they saw two girls in Pool Academy uniforms and she had said to him: ‘Can you run them over?’, but that he did not take the comment seriously.

Mr Dobek said Dagmara phoned him the following morning at around 6.20am while he was at a fish factory where he and both of her parents worked nights, crying and saying she had taken some tablets.

Dagmara’s father, Jedrzej, said: ‘She said she had problems at school which I would not understand.’ He added it did not look like she had taken tablets and they sent her to school.

My wife and I kept wondering whether we should have kept Dagmara home that day, but there was no physical sign that she had taken any tablets, otherwise we would have taken her to hospital,’ he added.

The family lived in Redruth and Dagmara, who had a place at Truro College to study photography, and her younger sister went to Pennoweth Primary School where they ‘very quickly learned English’ but were the ‘first Polish children to attend the school’, the inquest heard.

Pastoral support worker at Pool Academy, Susan Kent, said: ‘To the best of my knowledge, Dagmara never mentioned any problems with racism to me or any other person at school.’

Other teachers described Dagmara as being friendly, happy, very sporty and a ‘lovely girl’, but said she was worried about her exams and had concerns that she may have dyslexia.

In a statement, Pc Helen Pharo described watching CCTV showing the maths corridor near where Dagmara was found on the day she died.

The inquest heard Dagmara entered the toilets at 12.14 and was found by students one hour and 36 minutes later at 13.50.

Paramedics entered the toilets at 14.09.

In a statement read out to the hearing, pathologist Dr Juliane Stolte, who carried out the post-mortem examination, said the cause of death was hanging.

The inquest, expected to last up to three days before Coroner Dr Emma Carlyon, continues.

Teh One Who Knocks
07-18-2017, 11:13 AM
Things like this frustrate me because I have mixed feelings. On the one hand, I'm sorry that this girl decided to kill herself because that is the only option she felt she had. But on the other hand, it pisses me off that her parents raised to to be so fucking fragile that someone insults her so she feels the need to kill herself. WTF? Kids were picked on when I was growing up and it happened early on in school and goes all the way through. But you know how many people killed themselves over stupid insults? No one. Teach your fucking kids to have a little self-esteem and self-respect and not to care (too much) about what other people say. I mean, they're kids, they're always going to care what people think about them even though they shouldn't, but FFS don't raise your kid to be so delicate that when he/she gets picked on they feel there's no other recourse other than to kill themselves.

/rant

Goofy
07-18-2017, 12:05 PM
Things like this frustrate me because I have mixed feelings. On the one hand, I'm sorry that this girl decided to kill herself because that is the only option she felt she had. But on the other hand, it pisses me off that her parents raised to to be so fucking fragile that someone insults her so she feels the need to kill herself. WTF? Kids were picked on when I was growing up and it happened early on in school and goes all the way through. But you know how many people killed themselves over stupid insults? No one. Teach your fucking kids to have a little self-esteem and self-respect and not to care (too much) about what other people say. I mean, they're kids, they're always going to care what people think about them even though they shouldn't, but FFS don't raise your kid to be so delicate that when he/she gets picked on they feel there's no other recourse other than to kill themselves.

/rantAgreed. I faced/heard waaay worse when i was a kid, you stand up to them and it stops. Sure you may take a beating or two along the way but unfortunately violence is the only thing that bullies understand. (Im speaking as someone who was bullied in high school and eventually snapped and knocked the shit out of the biggest, toughest bully - strangely enough it stopped instantly after that and we actually remain good friends to this day).

Muddy
07-18-2017, 03:59 PM
Its a completely different set of rules of engagement now though, Lance.. Our lives were way before social media. You can fuckin' wreck somebody now in large numbers and with extreme non relenting brutality.. We don't know the challenges these kids face now.

RBP
07-18-2017, 04:09 PM
Its a completely different set of rules of engagement now though, Lance.. Our lives were way before social media. You can fuckin' wreck somebody now in large numbers and with extreme non relenting brutality.. We don't know the challenges these kids face now.

And it used to stop when you left school for the day... now the mental assault continues electronically. Very different indeed.

Muddy
07-18-2017, 04:26 PM
I had a girl that had targeted my middle child.. When my child started to get the best of her, the offender was getting kids from other school districts to target her and tell her they were going to come to her house and kill her and shit like that..

RBP
07-18-2017, 05:24 PM
Sorry she went through that, Muddy. The electronic access to kids is unprecedented and dangerous. Everyone focused on access by adults, but access by other kids is a serious threat also.

RBP
07-18-2017, 05:25 PM
Honestly, I am glad I am not a breeder.

Muddy
07-18-2017, 05:43 PM
Thanks and it's OK, one call to the school and they swarmed like mother fuckers on the kid.. :lol:

deebakes
07-19-2017, 03:20 AM
poor girl :rip:

Goofy
07-19-2017, 12:10 PM
Thing is, cyberbullying only works if you have a facebook/twitter/whatever account. Personally i dont see why kids need one anyway.

PorkChopSandwiches
07-19-2017, 03:45 PM
because thats how kids hang out these days

Muddy
07-19-2017, 03:48 PM
It really is.. And if you dont have an Apple, "oh friggin woe is me!".. :lol: