Bachelor Party 2.0

[Godfather]

Ok boys, I need some manly advice from you gentlemen. I'll try and be brief but it's a bit of a convuluted situation so let me know if you need clarifying info (presuming you care at all )


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I'm trying to plan a stag right now for my friend G. This is the story.

Back in 2019 we had a big stag planned down in the US with 15 guys. It was fairly expensive and a lot of work to plan. At the last minute before the stag (and only a few weeks before the wedding), our groom G calls off the wedding and dumps the chick.

While I believe it was the right call, some of his closest friends felt a little shook we were given no warning anything was awry. It then turned out he had started a relationship with a co-worker, and 6 months later they were engaged. The new girl is great, we like her, but the first fiance was around for 5+ years and it was all awkward for a while especially with the wives/girlfriends in our circle.

So going back to 2019, this breakup had just happened but this stag is fully booked, non-refundable. We went anyways and just called it a boys weekend. Our groom pitched in for his share (we'd have split his costs if the breakup hadn't happened). It was fun, but we still spent significant coin on a trip that was ultimately his choice of friends/brother/cousins. I and most of the others wouldn't have spent our PTO and cash on that trip if it wasn't intended to be G's stag.


Now flash forward 2.5 years later. Our groom is getting married to the new girl this summer asking for another stag. The guys who planned the first one feel slighted, like we planned this big trip, then the wedding was called off without him really sharing what was going on in his personal life, and he's expecting another... To the point where his new girl is texting some of us saying 'what is happening with his stag plans'?


Now me being a nice guy, I'm willing to plan something small and I've taken lead trying to book a short getaway... but I'm getting VERY little buy-in from other friends. I know some feel like they already spent their money on a stag, we have lots of weddings and other bachelor parties to budget for already, and some guys even feel their friendship isn't the same since the whole messy breakup with the first girl we all liked (I don't feel this, but a couple friends are still rattled their childhood friend flipped his life on his head, and the first they heard was in an emailing saying Wedding Cancelled).

For Stag 2.0, I did put together a few options for low-cost, easy getaways. I floated them to a group chat, and only got replies from 4/10 guys.

Does this mean I now get to be the bearer of bad news and tell my buddy that basically nobody wants to do a 'round two'? From his perspective the first trip didn't count, but from his friend's perspective it did and some are harboring resentment. That's not my business to share though, they should man up and say that to his face rather than me stirring the pot right?

Dudes aren't supposed to be this complicated, but here I am stuck in the friggin' middle.... what the hell do i do?