My brother is very single and said that when he hooks up with tinder girls now, he actually talks to them about it and sex is a firm yes or no question, and moreover he only feels comfortable when there is verbal, "enthusiastic concent." I think when I was single, sometimes a girl would jump on me and off we go, or vice versa.
The former seems so formal and robotic to me, but it's sounding like that's what a lot of women want in light of the whole #metoo thing... Of course there are times I'd straight up ask if a girl wanted to have sex and you'd wait for an empathic reply, but apparently
not doing that now (particularly with someone you aren't in a longer-term relationship with) is akin to rape, or at least it's very grey....
I'm just glad I've been in a relationship for 9-years. I think I'm a very understanding and was always so cautious with girl's feelings and reading the mood, but clearly it's even more complicated than that